3 Powerful Practical Steps To Save Your Marriage Now

3 Powerful Practical Steps To Save Your Marriage Now

If you are finding yourself at a point in your relationship where you have to ask yourself the tough questions about how to save my marriage or maybe even just how to fix my marriage than this article is for you.

Here are 3 powerful steps that will help you and your partner to find the "North Star" of your relationship. In this article you will also learn how to utilize productive tips to "fair fighting" and how to become a team even if you feel like opponents at the moment.

Step 1

Finding the North Star of your relationship.

The word relationship consists of two parts i.e. relation and ship. If two people in the same ship are trying to sail in different directions will they ever reach any destination? That is why it is important to find out where you are both interested in heading and to follow your north star to get there.

Start by asking yourself this question: Why did I get married in the first place? Irrespective of how you answer this question it always boils down to the most important thing in any relationship other than love and that is connection. To fix your relationship you have to work on finding ways in which to reconnect with your partner.

Our lives can become very busy and drag us off into different directions that can cause us to disconnect like a plug in your home that becomes disconnected from a wall socket (it's power source), your relationship then loses it's power. Interestingly enough only the two of you truly knows what it is that connects you, hence the importance of reminding each other of those special moments that brought you together.

Step 2

How to utilize productive tips to fair fighting.

There is only one tip here and it works in any relationship. The only way in which you can ever fight fair is not to fight at all. Call it arguing, difference of opinion, agree to disagree, but never call it fighting. As soon as you frame it in your mind as "fighting" you will have to hang that picture up somewhere and that is one picture that will be very difficult to remove. The definition of fighting: "displaying or engaging in violence, combat, or aggression," is enough to evoke a fight or flight response in anyone. So start by reframing your points of reference.

Step 3

Become a team even if you feel like opponents.

There is a saying that goes: "Feel the fear, but do it anyway" and that is exactly the approach that you should follow. Do not let your feelings cloud your judgment when it comes to working together to buildt something as beautiful as a future together. Not just for your children (if you have any) or to appease your parents or in-laws, but for yourselves.