The Length Of My Hair!?

by Delma
"Women are supposed to have long hair."
"Short hair isn't flattering."
"Men prefer long hair."    
"You look old with short hair"
"You won't look feminine with short hair"
"Don't you ever worry someone will mistake you for a man?"
"You're just cutting your hair because you're having an existential crisis."
"You looked so much better with long hair."
"But you can't DO anything with short hair."
"Short hair is meant for men."
"You must be really brave to cut your hair short"

If I go from short hair to long hair, I've become homely and a 'good girl' ready to mingle(means ready for a potential husband). 
If I go from long hair to short, she's uber cool, she's hip but she's also stubborn. Why can't u stick to the normal plain straight cut hair? Why do you have to do a 'V' and a 'U' or feather with your hair? 
If you go from curly to straight hair, suddenly people who never even talked to you have an opinion about your looks. I mean did I even ask your opinion. So why can't you just shut up? 
I don't go making fun of your hair when you have bad hair days. So don't come up with your, who the hell cares, opinion to me on my hair. 
My head, my hair, I will do whatever I want with it. 
Stick to your normal natural hair ?! fine, if its what I wish. I would do so. But if one day I decide to make my hair into pixie bob, I will. And there is nothing you can do to change my decision. Also, that doesn't mean that you can make me wish bad about it. 
Are my looks important to you more than me? If that's the case, do point out that u liked me way better before. Because I'm glad to get rid of all the unwanted people in my life, just as I cut my hair.
When the world is changing, when the world accepts all variety of people as one, why is this piece of land still being orthodox. The people in it even more stubborn to be less open-minded.
If you like me better with long hair, wait a few years to see me again. Because until then, I can be rid of your stupid mind too.
I was called crazy, childish, tomboyish for cutting my hair short. It seems like for a woman to be beautiful she should have long hair. These age-old beauty standards are making me cringe every time I hear someone comment on my hair.

I'm not gonna lie, there were days I would have a meltdown when I see myself in the mirror. All the insecurities regarding short hair would come back running to me.
But that doesn't mean I hate my hairstyle now. I love them. I know I look cute as hell in this look.  The moment they cut off my hair, I felt rejoiced and crumpled inside. I have lost the one security blanket where I could hide whenever I felt shy or lack in confidence. Now I felt like my raw self. I felt like I'm forced to put myself out there more. Trust me it was a real confidence booster. But the unnecessary comments I keep getting. The constant nagging I get from my mom and dad, even my neighbors ( yeah! You heard it right. In India, your neighbors will have opinions on how you should live your life)
And then I started to realize, if people are going to judge me by my hair, then they really don't deserve me.
I'm sorry if I'm cutting off your expectations of me. I was just cutting off the damage. I was just cutting of minutes of maintenance. I was just cutting of fear.
I was just cutting myself off from everything I was, to be everything I am. And if that doesn't make any sense to you, I'm not sorry. Because you are just once narrow-minded chauvinist.

It seemed as if the only way a woman could be labeled truly beautiful was if her hair fell half-way down her back.

Because what most people neglect to realize is when a woman cuts her hair -- she’s cutting off SO MUCH MORE:

She’s cutting herself off from the societal standard of beauty.
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Dahmie

Dahmie

March 22, 2018 - 11:41 wow, so touching..... and its true.... good one delma
Delma

Delma

June 28, 2018 - 13:00 Thank you Dahmie :)

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